This blog will consist of methods and thought processes some of your church leaders used and are still using in raising their children. We will attempt to explain the reasons for our methods and some of us will even tell you of the outcomes.
I, Kay will show you in the Bible where I found my ideas. I’ll try to explain the thought process and how I proceeded to carry it out. I particularly paid attention to Moses and what he said to parents and leaders as he was leading them into freedom for the first time in four hundred years. Or even Nehemiah as he inspired a scattered group to follow his lead with his systematic plan to rebuild their nation’s faith in an unseen God.
Throughout these stories and other narratives in the Bible, God makes it clear that we are called to raise our children spiritually, but He also expects us to think and lead strategically. This blog is simply my attempt as a church leader and mom to explain why it’s important for moms and dads to work together to impact their children. This is not intended to be infallible nor inerrant, I simply hope to create a thoughtful dialogue about parenting using the resources God has given the Christian community to influence the next generation…your children.
Here is a list of some of the leaders I recommend and of whom I have read and followed advice:
Dr. James Dobson
Dr. John Rosemond
Thomas and Adrienne Going (my parents)
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Denis and Barbara Rainey
Not all of these people have written books on parenting; some have simply written books whose content was helpful to me and I applied to raising my children. Needless to say, most of life’s lessons can somehow be applied to parenting.
As a young mom I realized early on that parenting had to be done very deliberately, carefully and with a sense of humor. By reading the Old Testament stories I saw the difference parenting made for the next generation, not to mention the heartache that could be avoided. I asked myself why this and not that? How do I avoid this and work towards that. I realized I needed a “mission statement” to work from; a sort of God honoring guideline to measure actions against so I would stay on track. After much thought and prayer, this is what mine looks like.
“The foundational goal in Christian Parenting should be to teach our children to fear*, submit to and love an unseen God, there-by leading them into a life marked by TRUE FREEDOM.”
The conviction behind this statement is that the Bible doesn’t leave us in ignorance about raising godly children in this day and age and that true freedom only lies in practicing the truth of God’s word. He has shown us in Scripture the beauty of parents and children in complimentary harmony. He has also shown us the distortions and even horrors that sin has made of fallen man, and He has shown us the way of redemption and healing through Christ. The foundation of my statement can be traced back throughout the Old Testament by understanding God the Father’s relationship to His children Israel, and the understanding of Proverbs.
My challenge for you is to take some time and prayerfully consider what the goals for your parenting are. It may not look like mine because you’re raising different children, with different gifts and missions for their lives. Next time I’ll define my statement one phrase at a time and unpack it’s application and meaning to me.
See you in two weeks!
*fear as in awe or reverence, sometimes even to be afraid when we disobey